You know what I hate most about summers? Isolation. Loneliness when I have chosen it is fine but forced loneliness, no one to talk to or even say hello to, that doesn't feel very nice. At all. And yet I have no idea what to do with it. I'm damaged and I only want relationships if they stay within the limits I've set and if they go forward in a pace that I have said to be okay.
And then there's of course my terrible habit of making criteria (no drunks, or politically right-wings, no men, no ). It seems that most of the people fitting to the description here have their own lives already: (nearly) graduated, have serious boyfriends, possibly engaged or married, possibly with kids and a house and a garden and worries about how much they can pay back the student loan... that's just not me. But then again, I don't fit in the other majority group of people who are content with occasional jobs and are more into partying and getting drunk and going to summer festivals and doing whatever they feel like without worrying about the future. Those people are social by nature.
"Feeling lonely and content at the same time, I believe, is a rare kind of happiness."
-Nightwish: Lagoon-
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Nyyti ry(http://www.nyyti.fi/linkit_ja_artikkelit/artikkelit/yksinaisyys2.htm):
"Ystävyys syntyy kohtaamisesta. On hetkiä, jolloin tunnemme voimakasta sympatiaa ja kiinnostusta, ns. sukulaisuutta tiettyyn henkilöön." Is this true? Wow, not only do I not have a single friend now, I've never had a single friend. Besides, you're not giving any concrete examples.
"Ihminen tarvitsee myös rohkeutta ja itseluottamusta pystyäkseen hakeutumaan uuteen seuraan ja solmimaan ystävyyssuhteita." In other words, I'm a lost cause.
"On tärkeää mennä reippaasti mukaan erilaisiin opiskelijoiden tilaisuuksiin ja tapahtumiin, missä voi tavata erilaisia ja eri sukupuolta olevia ihmisiä." Drinking... my sister has the same thing: drunken people, especially older men, make us anxious. The difference is that it's not an obstacle to her as it is to me.
"Osallistu, harrasta - älä eristäydy neljän seinän sisälle." And what does this mean in practice? Should I go and play bingo with pensioners?
"Yksinäisyys syntyy siitä, että tiedostaa toivovansa ihmissuhdetta, ystävää." One sentence I pretty much agree with.
"Yksinäisyydestä voit keskustella myös Nyytin Yksinäisyys- nettiryhmässä, jossa voit jakaa omia ajatuksiasi tai lukea muiden kirjoituksia."
Click... and this shows up: "Keskustelu nettiryhmissä on kevään osalta päättynyt."