Is it this bloody Yule creeping behind the corner or have people just gone insane?
Last week at Anttila the entire building was filled with people doing their shoppings. As I was standing in a relatively 'for-one-person'-sized alley between the shelves and pondering whether or not to get a DVD X, some guy came from behind and poked my back with his finger! Not only did it feel very nasty in and of itself, but by the time I realised it was a man breaking my physical immunity I was ready to push him back and remind him with somewhat restrained voice to *ask* people to move instead of touching them. Alas, there was a guard standing nearby so I had to swallow my anger and instead stare the guy for a very long time with a very icy stare and move my back as if shaking off something very much unwanted. I think he got the message, even though I would have preferred an actual verbal discipline lesson in front of the entire department.
Today, as I was paying my groceries, again some yahoo decided to ignore my right to physical immunity and poked my hips from both sides at the same time. The only reason the person got away with it with yet another icy stare was that it was a she. Had it been male, I would have started shouting right there.
What is it that people don't respect everyone's right not to be touched, especially by strangers? Do they ignore it with everyone? Had the people done it if I were a man? No, they wouldn't have.
Fuck them! Fuck this world! Fuck this year! FUCK!
2 kommenttia
stellagrrrl
11.12.2007 23:27
i feel ya. i'm pretty strict with my sphere of bodily privacy and feel offended if my boundaries are crossed without explicit permission. i tend to instinctively smack people who feel the need to squeeze any part of my body; poking just makes me furious.
why is it so damn difficult to just utter "excuse me"?
Splenetic
12.12.2007 11:50
Smacking... I like the sound of that... Sometimes it is very difficult to believe this is Finland that is supposed to be one of the most "fingertip" culture (as in people prefer to keep others in the fingertip distance).
And not necessarily even "excuse me"/"anteeksi"/"ursäkta" etc. but some kind of noise to tell me they want to pass. Yeah.. why is it so difficult? If they're afraid to speak up then they can wait until there is space. Grr...
Bodily privacy... that's the key to survive Yule shoppings.